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  2. But let us get one thing straight: the best years of our lives are not behind us. They’re part of us and they are set for repetition as we grow up and move to New York and away from New York and wish we did or didn’t live in New York. I plan on having parties when I’m 30. I plan on having fun when I’m old. Any notion of THE BEST years comes from clichéd “should haves…” “if I’d…” “wish I’d…”

    …
    We’re so young. We’re so young. We’re twenty-two years old. We have so much time. There’s this sentiment I sometimes sense, creeping in our collective conscious as we lay alone after a party, or pack up our books when we give in and go out – that it is somehow too late. That others are somehow ahead. More accomplished, more specialized. More on the path to somehow saving the world, somehow creating or inventing or improving. That it’s too late now to BEGIN a beginning and we must settle for continuance, for commencement.

    …
    What we have to remember is that we can still do anything. We can change our minds. We can start over. Get a post-bac or try writing for the first time. The notion that it’s too late to do anything is comical. It’s hilarious. We’re graduating college. We’re so young. We can’t, we MUST not lose this sense of possibility because in the end, it’s all we have.

    The Opposite of Loneliness by Marina Keegan

    go read the whole thing.

    It’s not only tragic that she died, cutting short a life with so much possibility and promise and life left to live, but I also think it’s incredibly tragic that it took her death to bring her words to so many people, myself included. But I’m grateful that I did find them, because they’re pretty amazing.

    (via lajoiedevivre)

    (via nyx-the-woman)

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  3. For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue…as the unintended side-effect of one’s personal dedication to a course greater than oneself.
    Viktor Frankl
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  4. What’s money? A man is a success if he gets up in the morning and goes to bed at night and in between does what he wants to do.
    Bob Dylan
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  5. What would life be if we had no courage to attempt anything?
    Vincent van Gogh

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  6. May your coming year be filled with magic and dreams and good madness. I hope you read some fine books and kiss someone who thinks you’re wonderful, and don’t forget to make some art — write or draw or build or sing or live as only you can. And I hope, somewhere in the next year, you surprise yourself.
    Neil Gaiman

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  8. Take your pleasure seriously.
    Charles Eames
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  9. sure, there’s plenty of room for amateur designers. but why be an amateur when you can be a great designer?
    Mr. K
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  10. 60 Ways to Make Life Simple Again

    searchingfor-peace:

    youcanalwayscomehome:

    Life is not complex.  We are complex.  Life is simple, and the simple thing is the right thing. - Oscar Wilde

    1. Don’t try to read other people’s minds.  Don’t make other people try to read yours.  Communicate.
    2. Be polite, but don’t try to be friends with everyone around you.  Instead, spend time nurturing your relationships with the people who matter most to you.
    3. Your health is your life, keep up with it.  Get an annual physical check-up.
    4. Live below your means.  Don’t buy stuff you don’t need.  Always sleep on big purchases.  Create a budget and savings plan and stick to both of them.
    5. Get enough sleep every night.  An exhausted mind is rarely productive.
    6.  Get up 30 minutes earlier so you don’t have to rush around like a mad man.  That 30 minutes will help you avoid speeding tickets, tardiness, and other unnecessary headaches.
    7. Get off your high horse, talk it out, shake hands or hug, and move on.
    8. Don’t waste your time on jealously.  The only person you’re competing against is yourself.
    9. Surround yourself with people who fill your gaps.  Let them do the stuff they’re better at so you can do the stuff you’re better at.
    10. Organize your living space and working space.  Read David Allen’s book Getting Things Done for some practical organizational guidance.
    11. Get rid of stuff you don’t use.
    12. Ask someone if you aren’t sure.
    13. Spend a little time now learning a time-saving trick or shortcut that you can use over and over again in the future.
    14. Don’t try to please everyone.  Just do what you know is right.
    15. Don’t drink alcohol or consume recreational drugs when you’re mad or sad.  Take a jog instead.
    16. Be sure to pay your bills on time.
    17. Fill up your gas tank on the way home, not in the morning when you’re in a hurry.
    18. Use technology to automate tasks.
    19. Handle important two-minute tasks immediately.
    20. Relocate closer to your place of employment.
    21. Don’t steal.
    22. Always be honest with yourself and others.
    23. Say “I love you” to your loved ones as often as possible.
    24. Single-task.  Do one thing at a time and give it all you got.
    25. Finish one project before you start another.
    26. Be yourself.
    27. When traveling, pack light.  Don’t bring it unless you absolutely must.
    28. Clean up after yourself.  Don’t put it off until later.
    29. Learn to cook, and cook.
    30. Make a weekly (healthy) menu, and shop for only the items you need.
    31. Consider buying and cooking food in bulk.  If you make a large portion of something on Sunday, you can eat leftovers several times during the week without spending more time cooking.
    32. Stay out of other people’s drama.  And don’t needlessly create your own.
    33. Buy things with cash.
    34. Maintain your car, home, and other personal belongings you rely on.
    35. Smile often, even to complete strangers.
    36. If you hate doing it, stop it.
    37. Treat everyone with the same level of respect you would give to your grandfather and the same level of patience you would have with your baby brother.
    38. Apologize when you should.
    39. Write things down.
    40. Be curious.  Don’t be scared to learn something new.
    41. Explore new ideas and opportunities often.
    42. Don’t be shy.  Network with people.  Meet new people.
    43. Don’t worry too much about what other people think about you.
    44. Spend time with nice people who are smart, driven, and likeminded.
    45. Don’t text and drive.  Don’t drink and drive.
    46. Drink water when you’re thirsty.
    47. Don’t eat when you’re bored.  Eat when you’re hungry.
    48. Exercise every day.  Simply take a long, relaxing walk or commit 30 minutes to an at-home exercise program like the P90X workout.
    49. Let go of things you can’t change.  Concentrate on things you can.
    50. Find hard work you actually enjoy doing.
    51. Realize that the harder you work, the luckier you will become.
    52. Follow your heart.  Don’t waste your life fulfilling someone else’s dreams and desires.
    53. Set priorities for yourself and act accordingly.
    54. Take it slow and add up all your small victories.
    55. However good or bad a situation is now, it will change.  Accept this simple fact.
    56. Excel at what you do.  Otherwise you’ll just frustrate yourself.
    57. Mature, but don’t grow up too fast.
    58. Realize that you’re never quite as right as you think you are.
    59. Build something or do something that makes you proud.
    60. Make mistakes, learn from them, laugh about them, and move along.

    all of the above.

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  11. galitl: “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinion drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” - Steve Jobs

    galitl:

    “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinion drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” - Steve Jobs

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  12. ‘The best thing for being sad,’ replied Merlin, beginning to puff and blow, ‘is to learn something. That’s the only thing that never fails. You may grow old and trembling in your anatomies, you may lie awake at night listening to the disorder of your veins, you may miss your only love, you may see the world about you devastated by evil lunatics, or know your honour trampled in the sewers of baser minds. There is only one thing for it then — to learn. Learn why the world wags and what wags it. That is the only thing which the mind can never exhaust, never alienate, never be tortured by, never fear or distrust, and never dream of regretting. Learning is the only thing for you. Look what a lot of things there are to learn.
    T.H. White
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  13. Silent Musings :: 37 Things You Should Never Apologize For (And Why)

    etiquette-etc:

    1. Never apologize for acting on your instincts.
     Listening to your body then taking action on what you hear
     is the hallmark of heroic people.

    2. Never apologize for all the tears you’ve cried.
    Crying cleanses the soul. Shoot for once a month.
    Even if it’s just a brief mist at a tender moment in a sad movie.

    3. Never apologize for anything in your resume/portfolio.
    If you feel the need to do so, it probably doesn’t belong
    in there in the first place.

    4. Never apologize for asking for what you need.
    The answer to every question you DON’T ask is always no.

    5. Never apologize for asking questions.
     When you stop asking questions,
    you don’t just run out of answers you run out of hope.

    6. Never apologize for asserting yourself.
     The word assert comes from the Latin asserere, which means,
    to claim, maintain or affirm. And that’s exactly what you’re entitled to:
     Your opinion. Your belief. Your say.
    Let nobody take it away from you.

    7. Never apologize for being a health nut.
    Next time someone says, What are you, on a diet or something?
     look them straight in the eye and say,
    Yeah you got a problem with that?
    Then, when they back down, you go right back to eating your tofu.

    8. Never apologize for being a newbie.
    Everyone great chess master was once a beginner.

    9. Never apologize for being early for an appointment.
    In the history of Corporate America, no employee has ever been
     fired for consistently arriving ten minutes early to every meeting.

    10. Never apologize for being funny.
    The world is too damn serious. We need you. Seriously.

    11. Never apologize for being human.
    Once you do, you’re no longer human you’re a cyborg.

    12. Never apologize for being passionate.
    Unless you’re passionate about stabbing strangers with
    broken Coke bottles.

    13. Never apologize for being smart.
     That’s the ONE thing the government, the media
     (and every other entity that’s trying to control you)
     is terrified of: Smart people who take action. Be one of those people.

    14. Never apologize for being the age that you are.
    It’s just a number. A chicken ain’t nothing but a bird, as my Grandpa likes to say.

    15. Never apologize for breaking a rule that isn’t really a rule.
    Be proud of yourself for being a rule breaker.
    Then go break another one.

    16. Never apologize for calling bullshit on someone.
    Especially when nobody else is the room is going to do
     it and this person REALLY needs to be taken to task.

    17. Never apologize for demanding respect.
    If you’ve demonstrated that you deserve respect by giving it to others first,
    you’re good to go.

    18. Never apologize for disagreeing.
    Especially if you do so respectfully. On the other hand,
    if you’re disagreeing for the sake of disagreeing,
    or because of your pathological need to be right,
    that’s a different story.

    19. Never apologize for expressing yourself.
    That’s all “leadership” is:
    The full, free expression of your truth.
     Don’t say you’re sorry for that.

    20. Never apologize for falling in love.
    Your heart’s calling the shots.

    21. Never apologize for falling OUT of love.
    Your heart’s still calling the shots
    even when you throw up an air ball.

    22. Never apologize for getting something off your chest.
    That which you suppress will find a home in your body.
    And then it will trash the place.

    23. Never apologize for giving it your best shot.
     As my Grandpa also reminded me,
    “You do the best you can with as many as you can.

    24. Never apologize for growing up privileged.
    As long as you scrap the entitlement attitude,
    remain grateful for everything you’ve ever been given
    and respect the life situation of those who are less fortunate, it’s all good.

    25. Never apologize for having an overabundance of love in your life.
    Instead, circulate what you’ve got. Pay it forward.
    Share it. People need it.

    26. Never apologize for lack of experience.
    Instead, share your Learning Plan; demonstrate
    your dedication to lifelong learning and practice
    becoming the world’s expert at learning from your experiences.

    27. Never apologize for lack of information.
    Ignorance is acceptable. Staying ignorant, however, is stupid.

    28. Never apologize for liking stupid movies.
    Movie snobs annoy me. Some of my favorite movies
    are among the most ridiculous films ever made.
    So I love Hangover. Sue me

    29. Never apologize for living your truth.
    Few things in the world are more important.

    30. Never apologize for looking out for yourself.
    Self-preservation is a primary driver of human behavior.
     It’s how we’re wired.

    31. Never apologize for loving yourself.
    If you do, you probably don’t love yourself as much as you thought.

    32. Never apologize for making a decision from the heart.
    Remember: It’s not thee truth it’s YOUR truth.

    33. Never apologize for needing alone time.
    Solitude is soil. Solitude is medicine.
    And if you don’t get your fix every day, your life will suffer.

    34. Never apologize for needing to use the bathroom.
    Yesterday a woman in my class walked out of the
    room and actually said to the instructor,
    I have to pee, I’m SO sorry. Unbelievable.

    35. Never apologize for not being there when someone called.
    You have a life, too. People can’t expect you to wait eagerly
    by the phone all hours of the day.

    36. Never apologize for not embracing someone else’s agenda.
    Especially if that agenda robs you of your true talent.

    37. Never apologize for occasional absentmindedness.
    Everyone’s brain farts.
    Be well & Be good to each other.

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  14. Cognitive distortion

    Cognitive distortions are exaggerated and irrational thoughts identified in cognitive therapy and its variants, which in theory perpetuate certain psychological disorders. Eliminating these distortions and negative thoughts is said to improve mood and discourage maladies such as depression and chronic anxiety.

    Many cognitive distortions are also logical fallacies; related links are suggested in parentheses.

    1. All-or-nothing thinking (splitting) – Thinking of things in absolute terms, like “always”, “every”, “never”, and “there is no alternative”. Few aspects of human behavior are so absolute. (See false dilemma.) All-or-nothing-thinking can contribute to depression. (See depression). Also called dichotomous thinking.
    2. Overgeneralization – Taking isolated cases and using them to make wide generalizations. (See hasty generalization.)
    3. Mental filter – Focusing almost exclusively on certain, usually negative or upsetting, aspects of an event while ignoring other positive aspects. For example, focusing on a tiny imperfection in a piece of otherwise useful clothing. (See misleading vividness.)
    4. Disqualifying the positive – Continually deemphasizing or “shooting down” positive experiences for arbitrary, ad hoc reasons. (See special pleading.)
    5. Jumping to conclusions – Drawing conclusions (usually negative) from little (if any) evidence. Two specific subtypes are also identified:
      • Mind reading – Assuming special knowledge of the intentions or thoughts of others.
      • Fortune telling – Exaggerating how things will turn out before they happen. (See slippery slope.)
    6. Magnification and minimization – Distorting aspects of a memory or situation through magnifying or minimizing them such that they no longer correspond to objective reality. This is common enough in the normal population to popularize idioms such as “make a mountain out of a molehill.” In depressed clients, often the positive characteristics of other people are exaggerated and negative characteristics are understated. There is one subtype of magnification:
      • Catastrophizing – Focusing on the worst possible outcome, however unlikely, or thinking that a situation is unbearable or impossible when it is really just uncomfortable.
    7. Emotional reasoning – Assuming reality to reflect emotions, e.g. “I feel it, therefore it must be true.” (See appeal to consequences.)
    8. Should statements – Patterns of thought which imply the way things “should” or “ought” to be rather than the actual situation the patient is faced with, or having rigid rules which the patient believes will “always apply” no matter what the circumstances are. Albert Ellis termed this “Musturbation”. (See wishful thinking.)
    9. Labeling and mislabeling – Explaining behaviors or events, merely by naming them; related to overgeneralization. Rather than describing the specific behavior, a patient assigns a label to someone or himself that implies absolute and unalterable terms. Mislabeling involves describing an event with language that is highly colored and emotionally loaded.
    10. Personalization – Attribution of personal responsibility (or causal role) for events over which the patient has no control. This pattern is also applied to others in the attribution of blame.
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